Miscarriage: A Common Part of the Motherhood Journey

At 7 weeks pregnant, I heard the words no one wants to hear. “I’m sorry. There’s no heartbeat.”

My husband & I were devastated. I had a D&C surgery the following week.

I felt like a failure. Even though doctors all assured me that I did nothing to cause this, I still felt like I must have. My husband had similar feelings, assuming something must be wrong with him that caused the miscarriage.

Like most Lady Project members, I’m an over-achiever. It threw my world for a loop to realize that becoming a Mom was not yet in the cards for me.

About 20% of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage. Yet, there is still a stigma and many women don’t talk about it.

If you’re a loved one of someone that’s going through this pain - I understand that you may not know what to say, but trust me, the person dealing with grief from a miscarriage would appreciate knowing you’re there for them.

According to WebMD, “It helps to talk about it. In one study, about half of people who'd lost a pregnancy said they felt less alone when they talked with friends who had one, too.”

We need to end the stigma about miscarriage & realize that not everyone that wants children is immediately able to have them.

Nancy Kerrigan spoke to People Magazine about Series of 6 Miscarriages: ‘I Felt Like a Failure’

Like all grief, it can appear at times when you didn’t expect it to. In the first months after the miscarriage, I couldn’t go on Facebook because pictures of children made me cry. 

I’m in my 30s. It felt like everyone was having kids but me. Even people that didn’t plan it. I couldn’t understand why it was so easy for them, but not me.

It’s been over a year since my miscarriage and I’m finally ready to try again.
I am terrified that I’ll go through a miscarriage again, even though statistically that’s unlikely.