The last two weeks of 2017 I spent planning and getting ready for the new year. I watched as many motivational videos on YouTube as possible. I did tarot card readings for 2018. I was ready. I had a fantastic New Year’s Eve with the people I love the most and danced until 4am. And then the next day I was hit with the flu. I spent the first week of 2018 stuck in my apartment recovering. Talk about the universe saying you need to chill out and get your body right. I know the first week of the new year can be pretty high pressure for some people when they’re trying their best to not ruin their new year’s resolutions. This past week gave me the time to sit back and reevaluate the way I, and others, approach the start of the new year.
1. No more resolutions
I swear nothing positive happens from making a resolution. They usually fall flat by February and that leaves people sad, unmotivated, and blaming themselves. Instead, I make two separate lists - one for goals I would like to accomplish and one for intentions I want to set for myself. The goals are actionable items I would like to get done by the end of 2018. Things like “travel to three different places that aren’t New York City” and “get published in five magazines”. While goals are the actionable steps I want to take, intentions are how I want to feel. You always hear people say they have the resolution to lose weight. Well, the weight loss industry is a 60 BILLION dollar a year business designed to make you fail, which lends right into people feeling discouraged when they can’t achieve their desired weight. How about set the intention to feel good in your body? Goals and intentions work hand in hand so set goals to make you feel good in your body. Set goals like "reduce your refined sugar intake," “do more yoga at home,” and “buy a new piece of lingerie every month.” I think that would make me feel a lot better than just saying that I want to lose weight.
2. Start again tomorrow
Say you decide to do Yoga With Adriene’s 30 Days of Yoga starting on January 2nd and you got hit with the flu (yes, I am talking about myself right now). Now it’s a week after it started and you feel like what’s even the point of starting because you didn’t start when you wanted. Sometimes we hit roadblocks and we get completely sidelined. When we start doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that we did start at all. You made the goal to read 20 pages a day but then you got busy and missed a few days. It’s ok. Just start again tomorrow. It’s ok if you break the chain. Let’s take the pressure off ourselves. If we mess up, we’ll just pick up where we left off tomorrow.
3. It’s ok to change your mind
My word of the year for 2017 was “start.” I said at a word of the year workshop that one of the things I was going to start working on was my book. During 2017 I realized writing a book wasn’t something that was important to me anymore. It didn’t resonate with me like it did before. Why would I waste time on something that was not going to bring me any fulfillment? So, I gave up on that idea. Letting go of a goal that no longer serves you doesn’t make you or that particular project a failure. You are now making space for the right projects to come into your life.
I hope you all had a happy and safe New Years. This month on The Lady Project blog we will be pressing the Reset button. We’ll be sharing the ways we had to pull a do-over. How we needed to take a step back and start over. I hope you enjoy.