Late Sunday night, I was talking on the phone with a new guy. One of those talk about anything and everything kind of calls. The kind of call that lasts hours and you wonder how you’ve been on the phone until 4 am.
Late Sunday night, a domestic terrorist attack happened in Las Vegas. People were enjoying themselves at a music festival. Dancing the night away. Then the gunshots started. Then lives were changed forever.
Early Monday morning, I sat at my desk, sleep deprived. My brain bounced from replaying my phone call in my head to processing the Vegas attack. My emotions went from delighted to enraged to everything in between. How can someone be happy when the world is turning into a dumpster fire all around them? What do you do when you feel numb but can’t sit still, can’t stay quiet? Here are three things I did on Monday to get me through the day.
1. Do what you can
I was having a hard time focusing. I had a list of not a lot of things to do but I couldn’t bring myself to do any of it. I knew whatever I attempted to do was going to suck so I did none of it and I updated my website. It was not on my list but I knew it was something my brain could manage. I noticed that I was far behind on updating it so I felt better after getting that accomplished.
So do what you can, even if it’s tiny. Maybe it’s making the bed. Maybe it’s ordering takeout because you’re too worn out to cook. It’s still ok. You fed yourself. Maybe it’s going downstairs to check the mail. You left the apartment, even if it was for a few moments.
2. Make some noise
I saw a Washington Post article which called the gunman as a gambler, lover of country music, and a man who lived a quiet life. It made me so angry so I fixed it and put it on the internet.
As of publishing, it was shared 3070 times. It’s easy to feel helpless and that your words aren’t making a difference. But I made a thing that my friends shared and then their friends saw it and shared it and then their friends saw it and shared it and it goes on and on. People like to call others “armchair activists”. I hate that term. If you can reach people online with your message, especially if you know that you have something valuable to say, please share it. Please say it. It’s a ripple effect. Your words to do matter and will make a difference,
3. Tap away the pain
I do a technique called EFT Tapping. "Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT (often known as Tapping or EFT Tapping), is a universal healing tool that can provide impressive results for physical, emotional, and performance issues. EFT operates on the premise that no matter what part of your life needs improvement, there are unresolved emotional issues in the way. Even for physical issues, chronic pain, or diagnosed conditions, it is common knowledge that any kind of emotional stress can impede the natural healing potential of the human body." [source]
I followed along with a video in bed and then promptly passed out. Tapping allows me to work through some emotional issues. If you search EFT Tapping on YouTube you will see tons of videos to follow along with. Once you get the hang of it, you can do it on your own. Write down all your blocks and end with "Even though... (insert blocks here)... I deeply and completely love, accept, and forgive myself." Sounds pretty woo woo but it works.
If you're still feeling helpless, lost, or confused, please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional. You're never alone. This month on The Lady Project Blog we will be talking about Health. From physical to mental health, it's all important for us to be our best self. October 10th is World Mental Health Day so we will be hearing stories all month from women about their personal journey with bettering their mental health.