How To Stay Close To Your Mother When She Lives Far Away


My mom is my best friend, which is why it’s so frustrating that she lives so far away, especially during holidays and special occasions, like birthdays and Mother’s Day. Unfortunately, those occasions don’t always warrant a 12-hour drive down the east coast. Maybe it’s because of the miles between us that we both work extra hard to stay connected throughout the year, not just on those special days. 

Over the past few years, we have discovered some really great ways to stay close:

Schedule time to call or Skype her

My mom and I are both very busy with work, friends, and other family members. I would sometimes go weeks without calling her. Our least busy day is Sunday, so I got into the habit of calling or Skyping her on that day, and now we always have those chats to look forward to! 

Send her little gifts or cards

Who doesn't love getting mail? These gifts don't have to be extravagant or expensive. The goal is just to let her know you're thinking about her! Sometimes when I'm browsing on amazon or at a cute shop downtown, I'll pick something up for her and mail it with a handwritten note. Sometimes she does the same, and it always brightens my day!

Plan visits together

Since my mom lives 12 hours away, when we visit each other, we usually stay for at least 3 or 4 days. We spend the weeks leading up to our visit planning what we're going to do! I send her links to menus at new restaurants that I've discovered or schedules to plays and concerts. It's fun to plan the itinerary together and it also means no visiting time is wasted trying to decide what to do! 

Share hobbies and interests with her

My mom and I both love thrifting and antiquing! New stores that we've discovered or our latest finds are things we love to talk about! Maybe you and your mom watch a lot of the same shows or read the same books. Try recording the show and watching it together while on the phone or starting your own mini book club! 

Take lots of photos

I usually text my mom multiple times a day; it’s a quick and easy way to communicate. My favorite thing to text her are photos. They’re worth a thousand words, right? And I feel like sharing the things that seem mundane to me, like cute pictures of my cat or the view from my cubicle or the flowers blooming outside my apartment really make her feel like she’s part of my life because she's not around in person to see them.